Repairing your self esteem can be done but it takes commitment, determination and desire. But not in the sense that you might think.
Because it has nothing to do with your surrounds, your family or your career. All this work is done internally. You must learn to love and accept yourself completely.
You must commit and commit fully because the only person who is concerned about building yours self esteem is you. You're the only one who knows what self esteem means to you and how much of it you have.
And it all begins with loving yourself. You need to love yourself enough to have compassion and sympathy for yourself. And you need to understand that you're not always going to be right and that's OK.
You're going to make mistakes and regret doing or saying things but that's part of life. You can't beat yourself up for it. You must let it go and keep moving forward.
I've noticed that a lot of people who are unhappy and uncaring about themselves are spending most of their waking hours living in the past.
By continuing to be unforgiving and unaccepting of themselves in the present. It's unnecessary and it's mentally, physically and spiritually draining.
Learning to let it go
Learning to let go of anything and everything that happened in the past will help you tremendously with repairing your self esteem.
I believe that on some level, self esteem does fluctuate up and down. One day you may have a ton of it and nothing bothers you and on other days you may not be able to tolerate a thing.
That's why it so important to learn to let it go. Let go of the fact that you acted irrational yesterday. Let go of the fact that you could have acted differently but never. Forgive yourself for saying not very nice things about your mother ten years ago.
Forgive yourself for getting out of line the last time you were angry or upset. Forgive yourself for making a mistake that hurt or effected someone else.
Holding onto all these little self judgments from the past will keep you from feeling good about yourself in the present. And the longer you hold onto them the more unhappy you'll become.
Learn to live in the present moment
Learning to live in the present moment will make you happier, more accepting and much more adventurous than you can imagine right now.
If you start to focus more of your attention on what is happening in your present situations you'll have the power to fix what isn't working and start enjoy what is. Instead of thinking and feeling negative about what happened in the past.
In the past, where you have no power to change it anyway. You have the power to control what you focus on. And you have the power to choose to be loving and accepting. And you also have the power to create all things the way you want them to be.
Repairing your self esteem is worth it in the short term and in the long run as well. You'll never regret feeling good about yourself or accepting yourself regardless of what happens.
But I do know one thing, you absolutely cannot live in the past and expect to happy, healthy and wise in the present. You must make the necessary adjustments to do whatever it takes to live in the present moment and to treat yourself with loving kindness right now.
Forget about fixing the past, that stuff is over and done with. Focus your attention on right now and how you want your future to look. That is where your power is and that is where you can learn to love and accept yourself completely, which is the core of self esteem.
Michelle Sears is the author of a self esteem building website that is packed full of information. Her site was created to help people just like you create a deep loving relationship with yourself. A relationship that will affect every single area of your life - in a good way. Visit her on her website at http://www.selfesteem-building.com or on her Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/selfesteembuilding
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