No Longer Bound - Breaking Free From Negativity

By La Shan Yvette Njie

Self-perception is one of the most important factors in living a fulfilled life. The manner in which we view ourselves affects our relationships with other people and also our relationship with ourselves. Whether negative or positive, the way we perceive ourselves is usually the product of outside influences. Perhaps when you were a child you were told that you were not pretty, handsome, smart, funny or talented enough to be who you wanted to be or achieve what you desired to achieve. Maybe your experience was exactly the opposite and you were always encouraged to pursue your dreams and you were told you were just as good or better than the next person in your space. No matter what type of influence was received or where it came from it affected how you think today.

Those of us who were constantly reminded of our many capabilities are not afraid to strive to succeed. We go after what we want and often achieve our goals because those we encounter are attracted to the confidence that drives us. On the other hand, the ones who were fed negativity tend to shy away from success by not even trying. Disappointment has repeatedly shown its ugly face time and time again. So, instead of attempting to move ahead, we are paralyzed in a holding place due to being spoon fed with negativity for so long.

I would like to address the person that lacks self-confidence because of the unfavorable comments that have been spoken into your life. Here are a few tips that may pull you out of the pessimistic way of thinking that you have fallen into.

1. Be confident in who you are. There is only one you and no one can replace you or the gifts and talents you were born with.

2. Never change for people. Always please yourself. People change more than the seasons. One moment they love you and the next moment they may hate you. Usually people change because of adverse circumstances they may be dealing with or because they may not be content with who they are at the time. This is why it is important not to change to please people. If you are pleased with yourself and you treat yourself with respect everyone else will follow.

3. Take time to find out who you are. There are treasures in you that you have to share with others. You were not born by accident. There is a Divine destiny for yourself. Look for it and you will discover who you are.

4. Take care of you. Make sure you exercise and eat right. Learn how to love yourself and take care of the equipment God gave you.

5. Make sure you incorporate a little "Me" time into your week. Remember to treat yourself like royalty every once in a while. Buy yourself something nice or take a long bubble bath with your favorite aromatherapy candle. It does not matter what you do as long as you carve out time to pamper yourself.

It is not easy to undo years of negativity. However, we need to start somewhere.

Article by La Shan Yvette Njie, Founder of Listening Ears. I am dedicated to the cause of propagating positivity across the Earth. http://www.lisnenears.com

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Not As Happy As You Want To Be

by Kim Ravida

Do you love your life? Are you not as happy as you would like to be? Sometimes it's what is happening on the inside that drives what is occurring on the outside. How many times does it feel to you that your life is out of control? Stuff is happening so fast and so often. Your kids aren't listening, the dog isn't listening and your husband says you didn't tell him what you know you told him. Is it them? Or is it you?

You aren't going to like this...it is you. If you are unhappy with what is going on, the first place to look is to you. Great news though, you have the power to change it all. Yes, you do! What is going on inside is causing the turmoil on the outside. What are your thoughts about yourself? Are they positive, encouraging and supporting? Or are they more along the lines of "I can't believe I forgot that, you idiot!" I won't go on - I'm aiming for an upbeat feel here.

If your thoughts are negative and you are always putting yourself down, the chances are the negativity is all around your being. Therefore, when people aren't listening to you, you get annoyed, aggravated and even angry at them. I call that the outward manifestation of your inner being. What it really is though, is that you are truly annoyed, aggravated and angry at yourself. So, then how can you turn that around and get the results you are wanting?

Here are five tips to turn it around:

1. Remember that you have the power to change what you do not like by taking small simple steps.


2. Stop being so hard on yourself. When you hear your inner voice say something negative, stop it right there and remember a time where you felt confident.


3. Be kind and encouraging to yourself. Treat yourself as you would another person and you'll soon shift to a better inner feeling.


4. Start talking to yourself in a more positive and supporting way.


5. Begin to pay attention to how you are being with others. Are you showing up in a negative, unloving way and if so, shift that to a positive and loving manner.

Through your actions, what you will begin to see is a transformation in yourself. You will see that you are communicating clearly and that others are really listening.  It's almost like magic and truly beautiful.  You will notice yourself responding differently to others, and others responding to you in a good, positive, very pleasing way. We see the outer part of ourselves so often we forget that we have an inner self as well.  Once we treat our inner self with respect, patience and love, we transform not only ourselves but those around us.  We see the world as a place of beauty; a vast area to live and breathe openly and with great joy.

Kim Ravida, owner and founder of Kim Ravida Coaching, is a Certified Professional Coach and a personal and professional motivation mentor. Kim motivates people to stop beating themselves up and helps them get off their butts so that they maximize their time and energy to quickly get what they want in their lives... and love their reflection! Kim produces a weekly ezine where she shares insights, inspirations, tips and ideas for setting and reaching personal and professional goals. To get more information or sign up, please go to http://www.kimravida.com.