Showing posts with label self-improvement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-improvement. Show all posts

Sunday, April 1, 2012

The Psychological Side Of Self Improvement

You will find many people in the world with strong opinions about self improvement. If you talk to people, you would come across multiple concepts about self improvement. However, what you would truly find rare is someone who has some tips about the psychological aspect of self improvement. This is surprising because the most important aspect of self improvement is psychological. The reason for this is simply that self improvement starts at the mental level and then translates into actions.

If you are a person who is looking to improve himself then you should know that you have to start the process in your head first. Here are some tips that will help you with the psychological aspect of self improvement.Stop trying too hard to make the changes. It is common for a person to try too hard to bring about the changes that he really wants to see in himself. Unfortunately, while the intent is important, moderation is more important. This means that the people who try too hard tend to find themselves taking longer to make changes in themselves. The trick is to be easy about the changes and give them their due time to happen. Ideally, you should understand what you want to do and then try to absorb it instead of being conscious about it all the time. This way the changes would become second nature to you.

Try to look deep into the problem to resolve it

When it comes to self improvement, many people make the mistake of approaching the problem superficially. Not going deep into the problem means that you are only trying to cure the symptoms. The trick to resolving a problem or a limitation is to go deep into it and figure out the real reason why it exists. For example, the problem with a person who feels that he is not good at public speaking is not that he cannot speak in public. It is the fact that he feels that he does not have enough qualification to tell people what to do. Therefore, the problem here is about confidence instead of lack of public speaking skills.

Start with small instead of big changes

Self improvement is about long term changes. This means that you have to make sure that the changes last for a long time. This is only possible if the changes are ingrained instead of being on the surface. Effectively, if you want to change something in yourself then you will have to make sure that the changes are deep inside and not just superficial. The trick is to make the changes gradually which means that you should break down a big change into small changes. This makes them more achievable than they would be otherwise.

Learn to make a difference to the world around you

There is more to you than just your thought process or your qualities. As you most probably already know, the world around you and people surrounding you also influence you as a person. Effectively, it becomes important for you to change your surroundings around you and the people around you as well. Changing the people around you does not mean that you should try to change their personalities. It just means that you need to find people who influence you in a positive manner. The people around you should not demand undue things from you. They should instead inspire you to greater things in life by supporting you in your efforts.

Make sure that you are objective about everything in life

Just because something did not work out properly, it does not mean that you are a lesser person or you did something wrong. Being objective would allow you to be surer of your own capabilities and not blame yourself or your fate. Effectively, you will be happier about your efforts and your life in general.

This is surprising because the most important aspect of self improvement is psychological.

Monday, February 20, 2012

Goal Setting As A Means Of Self Improvement

It is often easy to forget exactly how important goal setting is to self improvement. We can have lofty ambitions for changing or improving who we are, but if we don't begin the journey with one step as Confucius once said and then break it down into smaller plans, the journey might begin to seem impossible.

The reason goal setting works as a means of self improvement is two-fold: the first part is obvious it allows us to break a really complex task down into small components that are easier to follow, more detailed, and less overwhelming. The second reason why goal setting is an effective means of self improvement is that it provides us with constant motivation. Whenever we accomplish that goal or objective on the way to the greater goal, we feel as if we have made progress, and it emboldens us to work towards the next goal in line.

Before anyone can begin goal setting for self improvement, he must determine what it is about himself that he would like to change and for what reason. For some people, the ultimate act of self improvement would involve quitting smoking cigarettes. For others, weight is a self improvement issue for which they are most concerned. For others, it might be something different, like being more assertive, more financially secure, or more charitable.

Of course, no one knows our faults better than we do. If we're overweight, we usually know just horrible it makes us feel, even if no one around us even really notices it. If we drink beyond what could be considered careful moderation, we know how it makes us feel and what it has done to our relationships.

Now, once you have identified what it is that you would like to improve about yourself, you can begin the goal setting process. Start with the ultimate goal (i.e., to lose 30 pounds). Next, depending on how large your ultimate goal is and how long it will reasonably take you to accomplish begin goal setting for objectives with timelines. For these smaller objectives, it is a good idea to tie them to actions, rather than results. If, for instance, your goal is to go to the gym three times each week and decrease your fat and carbohydrate intake, you might accomplish all of those goals, but it doesn't mean you will accomplish your short-term intended result, which was to lose ten pounds in 30 days.

If you only lose 10 pounds when your goal was 30 pounds, don't feel like you haven't succeeded. Instead, see if you followed the goals you set out to accomplish for the time period: did you go to the gym three times each week? Did you decrease your fat and carbohydrate intake? If you answered yes to all of these questions and you DID lose at least some weight, then you know your goal setting activities are on the right track, but you just need to intensify the components or increasing the overall timeline.

So, to reiterate, successful goal setting for self improvement consists of three things: creating long term goals, short term objectives, and re-evaluating the plan to make sure it is more realistic.

Friday, February 10, 2012

Self Improvement - The 5 Step Personal Development Plan

Personal development has become increasingly popular in today's busy world for everything from career improvement and weight loss to public speaking. While the methods and tools used to achieve the desired personal development outcome may vary from high priced seminars to moderately priced books, there are a number of simple steps that can be used to get you started on the right path to reach your own personal development goal, such as:

1) Identify the Cause
A good starting point with personal development is to look at how you got to where you are right now. For example, if your area of personal development relates to weight loss then look at what lifestyle factors contributed to your weight problem to start with. Write down everything you can think of that contributed to the problem and then analyze how you can modify each factor to get the result you desire.

2) Goal Setting
It is essential to have a clear goal in mind to achieve your own particularpersonal development requirements. Ask yourself exactly what it is that you wish to achieve and the more refined and clear your goal the more chance you will have of successfully attaining it.

3) Make a Plan
Once you have decided on your goal then formulate a plan that details the steps you will take to reach your goal. Use the details you uncovered when identifying the cause of the problem and expand on these to incorporate as much detail as possible on how you can achieve your personal development goal.

4) Focus and Commitment
Once you know your goal and have designed your plan you then need to focus on your goal and commit to the plan you have designed. Set aside a certain amount of time each day to work on your plan and do not allow general daily chores to distract you from what you need to do. Once you have become accustomed to working on your plan each day it will become a habit and therefore easier over time to stick too.

5) Look for Inspiration
It will be of great benefit to look for inspiration from others that have overcome the same personal development challenge as your own. This can be in the form of books, seminars, courses or even a person from your local community that you may be able to contact to get some tips or advice.

Personal development is about identifying areas of your life that you wish to change for the better and having an attitude of continual self-improvement. No matter which area of your life you intend to improve by following the steps outlined above and committing to the plan you can be assured of achieving your goals and in doing so gain more confidence to not only achieve other personal development goals but do it quicker and easier each time.